Let’s admit that it is hard losing friends especially when you may have been friends with the person for a long time. I can be the first to tell you that I have been losing friends since middle school. Currently, I’ve seen a pattern of how I lost most of my friends in the past. You know, I’ve mostly befriended people who were picked on in school. If I saw you being picked on by other children, I was going to be your friend. I have been picked on, and I know how that feels. In those situations, I always believed you need a friend to get you through those “teasing” moments in your life. The weirdest thing is that the people I befriended that were picked on stopped talking to me because they’ve become “well known” and I was too unpopular to associate with in school.
The point of this post is that it is okay to stop being friends with people. We’re all maturing as we age and we become tired of negative people. If you’re a freshman in college, you may have seen that you lost some of the people who you called your closest friends from middle or high school. I went through that same thing during my freshmen year. It was difficult because I was learning how to adjust to college life and trying to keep up with everyone from home. I started losing friends for reasons that I still do not understand to this day. Some friends disappeared on me, and I have no clue what happened. If you’re a rising freshman, you may go through this as well because your circle of friends are going to different places after high school. Unless you can get your whole circle of friends to go to the same college with you, then you are blessed!
As you go through college or life in general, you are always going to gain new friends. I don’t have a lot of friends, but I do cherish the people who are in my life today. I’m okay with not having a lot of friends because people are not as loyal as they used to be or they don’t know how to communicate with you when they’re angry. Mostly girls exhibit this type of behavior. Anyways don’t be afraid to lose friends who do not want to grow up with you. Leave the toxic friends who like to talk about you behind your back. You don’t have time for that because you have to keep it moving in college or in life.
All you have with your old friends are memories, and it’s okay to look back at good times with your old friends. I do that sometimes as well, but I’m not going back to rekindle friendships. One thing you should never do about your old friends is hate or resent them. It is not good for your soul, and God will not be pleased. Learn to forgive your past friends no matter how much they have betrayed you or hurt your feelings. Forgiveness is an act of healing, and you will be rewarded for expressing love to old friends when you see them. You don’t have to be friends with them again. However, you don’t have to hate them either.
Sometimes you can lose friends because you have naturally grown apart and that is always okay. I’ve experienced a couple of past friends in my life where we just stop talking. There was nothing wrong. We just grew out of one another. For example, that joke that your friend would always tell that was once funny isn’t funny anymore. Your mindset and their mindset maybe entirely different because of what you may be experiencing in life. Any comments or questions? Let’s talk in the comment section!
Prayer: Lord I ask that You bless the person that is reading this post. Search their hearts and remove any hate or bitterness that they have for their old friends. Although it hurts to lose old friends, give them the courage to move on with their lives. Help the person reading this post and their old friends to find You for their daily lives. Heal the people that are hurting from losing their old friends Lord! Surround them with your love and new friends that will be better friends to them. In Your name, Amen!
Proverbs 12: 26 – The righteous person is cautious in his friendship, but the way of the wicked leads astray