Are Virgins Played Out?

Being a virgin has turned into something wrong instead of something good. Boys and girls are losing their virginity as young as 8 or 9 now. People that are still virgins are looked upon as not cool or less of a person. As a 21 year old virgin, I’m here to tell you that you are still a great person. I’m a Christian and I believe that God wants us to stay pure until marriage.

I want virgins to be comfortable with keeping their virginity because we are doing the right thing. Society is making sexual activity a thing through television, movies, music, and magazines. It’s okay to be a virgin because you do not have to accidentally be contracted to diseases, don’t have to worry about thinking you’re pregnant, and you will not be emotionally and mentally connected to whomever you date.

I’ve received great comments about being a virgin, such as, “wow that’s really good. I wish I’d never lost mine.”, “continue to keep it until you’re married because these boys aren’t serious about you.”, and “wow it’s rare to hear people say they’re virgins.” I’ve also heard bad comments such as, “I know your life is boring without sex.”, “You’re a virgin? You should try having sex with someone. It’s really fun.” , and “how could you not have sex for all these years? That’s weird.”

If you are comfortable with being a virgin that does not mean that you should look at sexually active people differently. I have sexually active friends, and I have never looked at them differently. They should feel the same way.  Even though the media makes virgins look wrong, being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of what you believe in because God is proud of the way you are keeping your virginity. Don’t lose your virginity because everyone wants you to or because your friends lost theirs. Any comments or questions? Let’s talk in the comment section!

Prayer: Lord bless the people who are reading this post to feel confident about serving You. Help the ones who are struggling with the thought of keeping their virginity. Let them know that You are proud of their decision. Give them the strength to keep moving in the right direction with You in mind, not man. In Your name, Amen!

Ephesians 5: 3-4 – [3] But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; [4] Neither filthiness, foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.


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  1. 5

    At your age, there is a greater pressure to be sexually active. There are also a number of Christians in their 40s who are virgins because they are not married. No matter the age, it is still a struggle. Keep your focus and be proud

    • 6

      You’re absolutely right. I could only imagine how hard it is for the late twenties and up to feel the challenges of being virgins. We just have to stay in the mindset that purity is used for God’s glory. Thank you! I certainly will keep focus with the help of the Lord!

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    Donna Miller

    I am proud of you! I really believe we need to stop letting what others think to dictate how we decide to live our lives! Very refreshing to hear that you are courageous and brave and will follow your Lord! ❤

    • 8

      Thank you so much! Yes listening to too many voices can discourage us from hearing what God wants us to do and how we can live our lives for Him. Thank you for your kind words! ❤️

  3. 9
    Dee @ Life Honey

    Great post and go you. I think it’s awesome to wait. I became a christian when I was 22. My husband and I waited. I didn’t lead a christian life in the years before we met but I’m so thankful for God’s grace. The biggest thing my friends said at the time was ‘but how will you know if you are sexually compatiable’ which I think is one the biggest lie the media world has sold us on the topic. It’s simply not even relevant. I’m so thankful that God helped us to wait.

    • 10

      Thank God for his grace. I agree that it is a big lie because having sex from person to person can be dangerous if we were trying to find sexual compatibility. I’m thankful God is continuing to help me wait. Thank you for reading and responding!

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    Wandering Waffles

    I completely agree. Really don’t understand what is so wrong in waiting for the marriage and the right person.
    Not looking from the religion’s point of view – nowadays we bacame so arrogant, selfish, we lack emotions. People are having sex just for fun and it completely has lost it’s meaning.
    A few days back i heard two gilrs in the bus talking about how and why they have to lose their virginity and the main reason for that is not to be called “nerds” at school…. I really have no words to say anything about it….

    • 12

      I don’t see what’s wrong with waiting for marriage either. You’re right. People my age just enjoy having sexual intercourse for entertainment without understanding the designed purpose for sex. It indeed is sad that virgins are labeled as boring or lame because they choose to wait. Thank you for engaging with this post ❤️

  5. 13

    Lovely post, and good for you for sticking to your morals. I waited until I was in my 20s and I don’t regret that. I didn’t wait for a husband, however as a christian now, I wish I had and it’s something I have also taught my daughter, she’s proud to wait until she is married.

    • 14

      Thank you! I think that it’s great that you’re teaching your daughter to wait. Most guys aren’t sincere these days, and they just wanna have sex and leave girls an emotional wreck afterwards.

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    Ruth Chris

    This is beautiful, Am 22 and saving myself has been my happiest thing. All my birthdays makes me pinch myyto the thought of still pure. I hardly tell people even tho they may have jugdeyme of being very churchy, I just don’t care. I want it to be special. And with God I know it will be

    • 16

      Ruth, I’m truly proud of you for making a decision to stay pure for God! He’s for sure proud of you and it will not go unnoticed. People are going to look at you funny because you’re doing the right thing. The society showcases that bad is the new good, but God shows that the good is rewarded and the bad is punished. We will be just fine as virgins. God is going to bless you. Keep doing what you’re doing! Thanks for reading.

  7. 17

    Great I’m glad I can really really relate to this.There were so many times I nearly lost it but its like I always get back to my senses before It gets heated.When I got saved I’ve never looked back.Its a wonderful experience and I intend on keeping it until I’m married.

    • 18

      I’m so glad that you can relate. God will keep you because he sure has blocked all of the guys that weren’t good for me. It will be great to connect with your spouse in the future because that’s what God intended sex to be for ♥️ Keep striving for purity Naa!

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