Single 101

If anybody can talk about singleness, I am one of them. I am twenty – one and I have never dated. Sure I’ve had crushes, but I have never been in a relationship. Every time I tell someone this, people look at me like something’s wrong.  I don’t put my business out there in the social media world, so people just wonder if I’m dating and if I even like boys. I do like guys, but I never want to end up with the wrong guy.
I’ve seen so many girls go through heartbreaks because a guy may have cheated on them or they have lost their virginity to some guy who just wanted a one night stand. I don’t want to go through those things at all. I trust Jesus with the person that He has made for me. There are so many times I could have gone down the wrong road with guys, and God has always blocked it. Thank You, God! He has also told me when to leave someone alone because He has someone so much better for me.
I understand that it seems like it’s hard being single because you’re watching people around you in relationships. The thing I’ve learned is that people may make it look like they are fine together, but we will never know what they go through just to get through that relationship. Someone may actually feel more lonely in a relationship than actually being single.
People are always saying, “I don’t like being single.” If you’re saying that, then why? Are you afraid to deal with yourself in a room alone? When I hear the things people have to do while they are in a relationship, I truly appreciate being single. I don’t have to call in and tell a guy where I’m at, and I can look at any guy I want to without feeling guilty. I can’t be lusting, but I can enjoy looking at an attractive guy. I have the freedom to do what I want and when I want.
If you’re single like me, know that it is not bad at all. The opportunities you have as a single person is:
  • You can figure out your goals for your life.(ex. have a business in five years, finish school, traveling by the age of __ …)
  • Understand what you even want in a boyfriend/girlfriend
  • Find out about who you are (ex. finding out that you’re an artist, you actually like teaching people how to do certain things, you may actually like spending time by yourself sometimes….)
  • If you’re a Christian, this is a time for you to become closer to God then you’ve ever been. This is what I am trying to do right now.
  • You can treat yourself! Buy yourself that item that you’ve been wanting. You don’t need to wait for a guy to come in your life so he can buy you everything. That’s not even what a relationship is about.
  • You can hang out with your friends as much as you want.
Being single can be something to enjoy if you think about it. If people around are pressuring you to be in a relationship and you are not ready, you leave them alone. They are not respecting how you feel about being single. I used to feel like I needed to be in a relationship so I could stop hearing “Do you have a boyfriend?” Now every time I get that question, I say “nope, and I’m okay without one.”
It’s honestly okay to be single because whoever God has for you, you’re gonna enjoy your moment with him or her because you obeyed as a single individual. To be honest, I aspire to be married one day, but I want to make sure I am with the right person instead of dealing with a bunch of heartbreaks from different guys. I don’t want to be worn out by the time I end up with the person I am supposed to be with.
Single people, do not get discouraged about being alone. You’re really not alone because God is always with you and He knows what’s best for you! We’re gonna be okay! Have a great day or great night! Let’s talk in the comment section!
Prayer: Lord, let the single people that are reading this understand their purpose and help them to accomplish that purpose. Let them know that you have so much better for them than one night stands. Give them the heart to concentrate on You and not on relationship statuses. Thank You, God, for helping them feel better about being single. In Your name, Amen!
Psalms 46:10 KJV- Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.



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  1. 1
    Dana B

    Great post! You have so much wisdom for a 21 year old. Loved the part where you said “I don’t want to be worn out by the time I end up with the person I am supposed to be with”. This is sooooo true!

    • 2

      It’s the truth. My future husband would have to deal with all of my trust issues from previous relationships. I don’t want to drag someone with me down the road because I made bad decisions before him. Thanks so much!

    • 4

      Wow! Thank you for considering to share this with your friends. This is what I love to hear! A lot of people are dealing with this and are ashamed of being single but it is nothing to be ashamed of. We must be patient on God’s timing!

    • 8

      I think having a boyfriend is only great if he’s loving you and treating you with the utmost respect that you deserve. There are probably many women with boyfriends that have to continually deal with abuse (physically, mentally, verbally). Ex-boyfriends and Dealing with a broken heart should not feel great at all.

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    Donna Miller

    You are an amazing young lady who knows what shes wants! I just stopped to pray for you. God knows the exact man He created just for you and I’m praying this young man is saving himself for you too! What a beautiful love story you will write someday! Lovely! ❤

    • 12

      I’m really happy that I could help you enjoy your singleness! It will all be worth it in the end 🙂 Keep moving forward and God Bless you 🤗❤️

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    Tannah Wingerter

    I love this so much! I consider myself lucky to have met my one and only young, however it bothers me to no end to hear and see women go from one relationship to the next not thinking at all about how much damage that is doing. God has bigger things for you. Keep praying, keep trusting, and one day God WILL bring that perfect person. Way to go girl! I am saving this and when my daughter gets a little older, showing her.

    • 19

      Relationships shouldn’t be the only thing we should focus on in life. Like God has bigger for us. God’s plans are better than ours. I love your response and thank you so much!

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