What I Cut Out to Grow Closer to God

I want to grow closer to God, but how do I exactly do that? Reading the Bible is good and Gospel music is fine too, but how do I feel close to God and not distant from Him? If you asked yourself this question, you’re reading the right blog post! If you’ve never asked yourself that question, you’re still welcome to read further.

There’s a lot of people that have good intentions to grow closer to God. I was like that too. I would read devotionals and kind of read my Bible, but I couldn’t grasp a deeper connection.  I always wondered why I wasn’t feeling a connection between God and I. Why did I feel strong about not reading the Bible or praying to God? The enemy gets us in this way, he sees us trying to get closer to God and just plants this strong urge to do the opposite. In 2018, I decided to slowly cut some things out of my life, so that I could connect with God seriously this time. It’s 2019 and I have never felt so great about the relationship I have with God. He’s so amazing! Ahh I just love Him!

Alright these are the things I cut out of my daily life:

Secular music (every music genre except Christmas music and the ‘Happy Birthday song – if we want to be technical) – As I’ve said in previous post, I had a love for Hip-Hop/Rap music. I loved the bass and sometimes the lyrics. I just never felt like I could get away from it. I would listen to Gospel music in the morning or in private and would listen to Hip-Hop in public because I wanted people to connect with me. I wanted my peers to see I was listening to the new Drake album.

I loved a lot of R&B/Soul artist as well, and I thought they were great even if it wasn’t that bad. Anything that goes against God’s will is not good. I cut out secular music in July 2018. I stopped listening to it as a whole, and I learned that there was great modern Gospel that glorified Jesus! My mind was renewed and transformed when I left the worldly lyrics out of my ears.


Reality shows – I loved watching Real Housewives of Atlanta, Married to Medicine, and Basketball Wives. The drama was fun to watch and I loved the stars of the shows. Why was it funny to watch women pick fights with each other and end up taking trips just to fight some more? I don’t get why I liked it that much since I’ve grown closer to God. When I left these shows alone, I concentrated on bettering myself as the woman God wanted me to be. I can’t become a woman of God and have jealousy, bitterness, and drama filled in my spirit. Reality shows don’t show me how to be better, it shows me how to be bitter.  My spirit feels lighter and happier. I’m not looking forward to see if X and Y is going to fight at the dinner party on *insert reality show*

Gossip talk shows/blogs – I used to watch Wendy Williams Show. I wanted the juicy details on what was going on with celebrities. I thought Wendy’s personality was entertaining, but as I started getting into the Word, I realized that gossiping is a sin. Spreading rumors and talking down on people is not of God. Even if you’re not gossiping, listening to it does not glorify God.

2 Corinthians 12:20 says “For I am afraid that when I come I won’t like what I find, and you won’t like my response. I am afraid that I will find quarreling (bickering), jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior.”

Those are some disorderly conduct in God’s eyes. A gossiper cannot go into the Kingdom of God. The Holy Ghost also lead me to unfollow The Shade Room. It is a toxic page to exploit celebrities and rarely positive news. I don’t have the urge to talk about people anymore. I’m happy for people that do great things! I’m praying for those that are not doing great things and allowing the enemy to use them. My heart has changed so much since I’ve cut out gossiping talk shows and blogs. Thank You God for that! My heart was not in the right place.


Horror movies/R-rated movies – I stopped watching horror movies years ago when I realized that it put a lot of fear in me. Those horror movies aren’t scary for no reason. The devil is using people behind those films. Horror movies are demonic okay! I stopped watching R-rated movies because they weren’t fulfilling. They might seem funny, but if they allow me to have curse words or sexual scenes glued to my head, then it’s not worth losing my soul.

If I can’t put my mind on God, then it will always hinder me from being in His presence. I guess that’s the reason why I don’t watch a lot of movies anymore. They aren’t really funny, and they are hurting my relationship with God. If we are being honest, children movies are not even pure. No movie is safe, but we tolerate some movies depending on their rating. That’s another topic for another day.

Unfollowed toxic people on social media – Honestly, I’m still working on this because people’s feelings change daily. One minute they are posting about Jesus and then another day, they’re feeling horny and posting sexual content. I have to protect my heart, ears, mind, and spirit. I can’t let anything into my spirit because once I see or hear it, my eyes and ears cannot unhear or unsee it. I have been doing a lot of unfollowing on Instagram every two weeks and I hit the mute button a lot. I love God and I want to show Him through my actions. My Facebook is such a mess, I don’t have time to unfollow everybody, so I don’t get on there unless I post pictures or feel lead to speak about God.


Friendships – Well God did this for me in 2016, He just cut out everyone that I thought were close friends of mine. He revealed the fake people and those who kept me from growing closer to Him. If God wouldn’t have cut these people out, I wouldn’t have met some great sisters in Christ online! I’m so thankful God cut out people who weren’t for me, added people who pray for me, and want to see me do great things for Him.

If you’re trying to get close to God, ask Him to remove people out of your life that are hindering you from growing closer to Him. WARNING – If you ask this, be prepared to lose basically everyone that is not of God. You will experience loneliness and feeling bad for losing all your friends. You will try to replace those friends with some other bad friends. Just focus on God in this moment and spend some time with Him. Don’t worry about trying to make friends.

Those are the 6 things I cut out of my daily life to grow closer to God. It wasn’t an overnight process, but it has been worth it. A tip from Chelle, don’t try to cut out everything at once. Take baby steps. If you’re used to listening to secular music, take an hour out of your day to give Gospel music a try. If you’re looking for great Gospel music, click here. God is patient, and if he sees you are trying to come to Him, He will guide you.

I’m glad I cut these things out of my life. My mind, heart and soul feel so much better. The enemy still tries to mess me up, but it doesn’t work! *inserts laughing crying emojis* God works so much harder than the enemy ALWAYS! I love the place I’m at with the Lord. My relationship with God has grown because of my commitment to Him. I read my Bible daily now. Even if I wake up late, I find a way to read His Word throughout the day. I’m so grateful that God brought me from a mighty long way. I see better changes in my attitude and how I treat strangers. I’m smiling at strangers and randomly speaking to people. The worldly Chelle would never!! My resting face is slowly disappearing into a smile. Only God y’all!

Cut these things out of your life and I bet you will become closer to God. Read your Bible, bop to Gospel music and you will become so much better mentally and spiritually.

I hope that this post encouraged you to grow closer to God! Thank you for sharing and reading! Always remember you are loved by God. Have a great week lovely people!

Question: How are you growing closer to God? What would you like to cut out to become closer to God?

Prayer: Lord Jesus, thank you for allowing me to share the things that I’ve cut out to grow closer to You! Lord lead Your people to get to know you on a deeper level. In Jesus name, steer Your people away from things that are against Your will. Help them to take baby steps to live wholeheartedly for You! Lord Jesus, Your people will come to You!! They will not be hindered from Your GREAT LOVE and MERCY! In Jesus name, help people see that a relationship with You is the best choice that they can make for their lives! Jesus, we’re yearning for more of YOU! Help us to continue/start walking in Your victory! Help us to cut away from the way of the world and come to You! In Jesus name, we love You, Amen!

2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT – Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

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  1. 1

    Getting closer to God made me realise my mum had been right about some of my friends.As for circular music,it’s baby steps but its way better .My only problem is finding godly friends.

    • 2

      Yes, Abby continue to take baby steps. Nobody can stop doing/ paying attention to ungodly things in a day. Everything takes time! About godly friends, continue to pray for that. In the meantime, be the godly friend that you want in your life ☺️ I hope that helps! Have a lovely day!

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