SWS#3 – Singleness is a Gift

People like to make it seem as if being single is a curse, but it’s actually a gift from God. Do you know how amazing it is to be single and wait for God’s best? Singleness is a part of your purpose. You are here on this Earth to work on something that God has called you to. Life is not about getting married. In fact, everyone on this Earth is not meant for marriage. There are some women and men who are called to be single and that is okay. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:8 NLT “So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows – it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am.” Singleness is a time to seek out what God is telling you to do. There’s a lot of problems that need to be solved and ,we, women, are equipped with the tools to solve them. Maybe you are great with doing hair and God wants you to be a hair stylist. You are great with cameras and editing,  and God wants you to be a photographer.

We are too focused on why we are single when we should be asking “God what do you want me to do right now?” People may make you feel inadequate because you’ve been single for years. They may make it seem like you’ve got a disease, but you don’t! God finds pleasure in you being obedient and waiting for His best. Working in your singleness will save you from unneccesary heartbreaks. It will help you build up God’s Kingdom. Did you ever think maybe you are in your single season to help the next woman out?


Marriage is not for people to show off that they are with someone. It is for two people to become one and glorify God with their lives. It’s not just about having sex and being intimate with your partner. God wants us to remember as single women, we are preparing for something bigger than ourselves.

At the end of the day, everything that we do is for the Kingdom of God! It’s about glorifying Him with our whole lives. God wants us to enjoy this life, but He doesn’t want you to become caught up on relationship statuses or a ring. What is God telling you to do lovely Women of God? What you do in your life right now is the setup for the years to come. If you are not busy building up the Kingdom or becoming a better YOU right now, then you are going to regret this time in the future. Whatever is going on with you as a single woman will catch up with you as a married woman. There’s married women that have to catch up right now because they didn’t work while they were single. So, would you rather wait to fix the problems while you’re married or fix them before you’re married? You know you’re bad with money, so allow God to help you work on your finances now. That will save you from arguments in the finance section.

Paul says in a part of a scripture for the unmarried women in 1 Corinthians 7: 34 NLT “In the same way, a woman who is no longer married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.” A woman who is not married has time to be at the feet of Jesus as much as she desires. She has time to seek out the things that she needs to be doing for the Lord. A married woman has to keep in mind to keep the Lord first, but also continue to keep up with her household, and her husband’s needs. The married woman has more responsibility than the single woman.


Are you truly ready to give up your single life and add on more responsibility in your married life? Think about that, being married is more than having a ring on your finger. The man is your other half now ladies! As a married woman, you have to submit to your partner and work together with your partner. It’s not just you anymore. Please take time to enjoy the gift of waiting as a single woman.

We have the time to work, rest, travel, and enjoy life on our own. Don’t let people make you feel bad about being single. There’s so much beauty in your time of being single. My relationship with God has become my main focus. I’m tending to what He has called me to. It’s exciting to speak to the Holy Spirit and listen to all of the works He is revealing to me. I want the same for you! I want you to focus on flourishing in your relationship with Christ. Enjoy all the things that God is doing in your life. Work and have fun! I can’t lie, it’s going to be exciting to meet my husband. Right now, my focus is to continue to seek God and be content with the life He has gifted me with. This is your life! A life that He has gifted only YOU with! Nobody can take your place in this lifetime!

The Bible doesn’t exactly say singleness is a gift, but it shows that God is not concerned with your exact relationship status. He wants you to be devoted to Him and doing His work whether you’re married or your single. The only difference is that it will be much harder to be steadily devoted to Him when you are married. 1 Corinthians 7:32 NLT says “I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please Him” Don’t be concerned with your relationship status. Be concerned with where you are in the Lord. He is the One that can give you peace, love, joy, hope, and so many great things. He is the One that can make you whole. Not a man.

Let’s concentrate on living for God. We should rest knowing that even if we don’t get married, we’ll always have God. Yeah it’s easier said than done, so pray that you become so rooted in God that you don’t care if you’re single or married. Your life revolves around God, not relationship statuses.

I hope that this post blessed you! Enjoy being single Women of God. It may not last for long! I love you all! If you need to talk about this topic or want to be prayed for, contact me here! Have an amazing week!


Prayer:Father God, we thank You for showing us scripture on what You say about being single in Your Word. We want to rest in You, knowing that You have our best interest in life. We want to work for You and stay connected with You as women. Continue to mold us into the women that You want us to be. Prepare us for the next chapter of our lives. We want to glorify You in all of our ways. Lord, I say a prayer for the women who are struggling with contentment in this season. Lift their heads up and let them know that You are with them! Love on your daughters that are discontent! Reveal to them all the things that it takes to become a married woman. Help them to realize that being single is not bad or a curse! In Jesus name, we love You, and we pray, Amen!

Ecclesiastes 11:9 NLT – Young people, it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do; take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God in everything that you do.

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    Brie Black

    So in love with this series Chelle! I love what you said about concentrate on living for God. As His children, no matter what happens, single or married He must be our everything. He must come first and be our sole foundation. I struggled with understanding the importance of God’s role in my life for the longest… even started idolizing marriage & men. I’m grateful for a change of heart and knowing I am His before I am anyone else’s. Being a woman after His own heart and being so in love with Jesus will allow us to not only step into our calling but see Him in fresh new ways daily.

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      Brie, I love your response! God literally comes first. When He is first, all of our relationships and things in our lives fall into place. I definitely agree with being a woman after His heart will allow us to see Him in different ways! So glad you’re enjoying the series!! 💖

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