When I was in my senior year of high school, I began to spark a desire for marriage. I was never one of those little girls that dreamed about marriage. I didn’t imagine being with someone because I had dealt with boys teasing me in school. I was a girl that felt like I was going to be alone forever. But something changed inside of me after receiving news that my parents were going their separate ways. I began to think differently about marriage in a good way. I remember saying that I want to be married, so that I could glorify God through marriage. I reviewed marriages in my family dynamic, and I had never seen an example of a godly marriage. I always wondered why no one shows God’s love in their marriage. In that moment, as a senior in high school, I knew that I wanted to be the change.
Today, as a 22-year-old woman, I strive to wait for God’s best for me. Bad marriages/divorces are one of the biggest generational curses in my family. I want it to stop with me. Many people’s marriages can’t last after 20 years and I find that to be strange. Marriage has become a joke, and I don’t find it funny. Look at all of these shows, displaying two people married quickly, and most of them end up in a divorce. Isn’t that sad?
I want to see marriages survive and also thrive! It’s disappointing to see that women and men would rather do things backwards, such as, have a baby first, and then they’ll see about marriage. Young people don’t want to be married, because they can’t last with one person forever. It’s the enemy’s tactic for young people to have a baby first and play house with a man or a woman. God did not design marriage for it to be this way. He designed it to get the Glory, but to also build a family that will keep going through children and children’s children. I want to showcase what a healthy marriage looks like one day. I want my children to see a godly marriage in their life, so that they can keep godly marriages going in their life (if they are called to be married).
We don’t really understand how sacred marriage is. We just think in our minds that it’s about two people being able to legally have sex in God’s eyes. There’s so much more as I’ve said in “Singleness is a gift”. I’ve been learning more about marriage in the Bible and on YouTube. Marriage is more than being in the same household as your spouse. It’s working together to pursue God and submit to each other. You’re continuously fighting for your marriage even when it gets hard. Divorce rates are going up because nobody wants to continue to fight for someone in their life. People are heavily committing adultery and don’t know how to communicate with each other.
I’ve watched many people’s marriages fall a part in my family because they didn’t have good communication, or they were tired of their wives. God has been teaching me that everyday isn’t going to be lovely with your spouse. There are going to be days where you don’t feel like being around the person. It shouldn’t make you want to throw in the towel because you have some rough days. You have some rough days with your family members or your friends, but you don’t cut ties with them. Well you shouldn’t do that, because people love to cut everyone off instead of solving the problem.
As I said in earlier posts, I’ve never felt like the girl that would get married. I began to accept being single forever with a dog. I was thinking I couldn’t possibly get married one day because I’m not pretty enough. Nobody will like my quiet demeanor. My standards maybe too high, and there might not be a good guy out there for me. It has been the enemy feeding me lies all this time. God has been speaking over me lately “I have someone for you.” If He has been saying that to you my sisters, He isn’t messing with your head. He means that. Even when times look hard, God will do what He’s promised you. Maybe you’re like me, never dated in your 20+ years of life. All of your friends are dating, engaged, and married with kids, and you’re waiting for your turn.
I just want to encourage you that if you have a desire for marriage in your heart, it’s there for a reason. God wants you to be married for His Glory. He’s creating you to be the godly woman for the godly man that’s soon to come. Keep your head up and hold onto that desire. Remember that you can desire marriage, but don’t turn it into idolization. Don’t think about marriage more than God. This is where the idea of marriage becomes dangerous.
I would love to know why you desire marriage in the comments or contact me here. Let’s talk about it. When did you began to desire marriage? I hope that this post blessed you in some way. Have an amazing week my sisters!
Prayer: Lord thank You for showing me the desire for marriage. Help us to continue to look to You in our season of singleness. Help us to wait for Your promises diligently. Tell us what we need to work on while we wait. In Jesus name, we want to break the generational curses of bad marriages/divorces. We want to be the change for our family dynamics. We want our children and our grandchildren to thrive in marriage just as we did. In Jesus name, we thank You for this series. Thank You for revealing new information to us about our time of singleness. We love You! In Jesus name, Amen!
1 Corinthians 7:2 NLT – But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
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